Hi, I’m Kaillaby: a promoter of peace, happiness and acceptance.

Happiness Over Everything is a safe space for you to be yourself.

You see, I believe that, in life, we should lead with happiness first, because, when it’s all said and done, isn’t it all that truly matters?

Live vicariously through me and explore the many ways in which I choose Happiness Over Everything.

Friday Feb 26, 2021

My latest feature for missmarijuana.org is a fun one! You know those storage bags that can be used for your edibles can ALSO be used for everyday storage OR packaging your creations. Click here for more.

Friday Feb 19, 2021

I love snowy days in the City.

After becoming an adult I hated snow, mainly for the inconvenience of it.

I never saw the benefits of snow and how it could be used to bring a family closer together. All I would see was how messy it was, how it slowed things down, and how it got in the way of things like my morning commutes to work.

Now that I have the opportunity to see the World through a different lens, I must say, I love it!

Here’s to stopping and smelling the roses…

…or playing in the Winter snow ^_^

Until our next adventure…


Wednesday Feb 17, 2021

Oh, hey ❤

Amanda, you’re the REAL MVP.

Thanks a million, I will cherish it FOREVER ❤

Tuesday Feb 16, 2021

I’m proud to play a part in spreading the awareness of cannabis culture.
There’s a whole methodology and science that goes into the growth and consumption of weed.

Please don’t be mislead by misinformation, weed has hella benefits.

Marijuana is used to mend pains, anxieties and other health issues.

Cannabis can be used to boost your mood, libido and, E N E R G Y.

But don’t just take my word for it, head to missmarijuana.org to see for yourselves 😘

Saturday Feb 13, 2021

Ever just have a feeling like you should act on something? A gut feeling so strong it has gravitational pull?

Whether you call this fate, intuition, or a sign from the Universe, this…thing, this idea, has been jumping out at me lately. It’s all I can think about, talk about, dream about. This idea is so heavy on my mind, it’s disrupted my sleep. Something’s telling me I should just jump, ya know?

I should just dive headfirst into this idea, go all in. And I mean, hey, why the hell not? I’m nothing if not a risk-taker.

I’ll let you know how it goes.


Saturday Feb 6, 2021

My latest for CBR.com featuring Dragon Ball: Sleeping Princess in Devil’s Castle.

In Dragon Ball movie 2, Goku battles a deadly Vampire demon Lord…in sunglasses o.O!?

As comical as this opponent might seem, he presents quite a challenge when facing the Worlds strongest Saiyan.

Click here to read.

Thursday Feb 4, 2021

Oh Delilah, this World doesn’t deserve you ❤ ❤ ❤

Friday Jan 29, 2021

What is a rebel?

I live it. I AM it, a Rebel.

Being a rebel means not giving a fuck about social norms or what people think. It’s a refusal to conform. Seeing the World through a unique lens and staying true to yourself, no matter what. It means being unafraid to speak up, speak out and stand for something even if it’s considered weird or unconventional.

With that, I give you: Rebel.

Thank you to the lovely 4inthemorning for, not just being an ESSENTIAL asset, supporter, and presence in my life, but for taking these AMAZING photos. You can view more of her work, here or follow your girl on Instagram @4inthemorning_.

Want to explore the rest of the photos from the “Rebel” photoshoot? You can view those on my modeling page.

Do you consider yourself a rebel? How do you let out your rebel yell? Let me know in the comments.

Until our next adventure…


Tuesday Jan 26, 2021

‘Ello lovelies!

Today I did a check-in with myself. I went to my vision board and, to my surprise, I needed to take some of my goals down.

Not because I fell short, not because I didn’t make it, BUT BECAUSE I ALREADY ACHIEVED THEM! ::squeals::

As an overachiever I’m so busy pushing forward, that I don’t take the time to acknowledge my achievements and have been oblivious to the magnitude of the success I’ve been achieving!

So, I started a new habit, every time I achieve a goal I will remove it from my vision board and place the sticky note behind my work station. I’ll attach evidence to go along with it because, you know, receipts.

With that, I’d like to offer you my five essential tips for creating and achieving your goals:

#GOALS by Kaillaby

When it comes to a goal, always remember to:

  • Be specific and concise.
  • Dream Big! Dont sell yourself short.
  • Be honest with yourself.
  • Check in, update and follow through.
  • Manifest through affirmation.
  • Be patient!
  • Count the small victories, can’t forget the little guys.

Have you achieved any goals lately? No matter how big or small, be to sure to pat yourself on the back and do a little victory dance!

Until our next adventure…


Saturday Jan 23, 2021

Man, ain’t nothing like quality time with the ones you love.

I had the honor of accompanying a friend to the Museum of Natural History today. Na, friend is an understatement. She’s more like a sister to me ❤

We finally hung out for the first time in a while (10 months in lockdown will do that to your relationship) and fast forward past one night of red wine, laughing and catching up later we linked up for a Saturday-day trip to the Museum of Natural History!

It was awesome!

Just that little taste of normalcy was enough to boost my entire spirit. I hope I never come down from this emotional high.

I’m privileged to say that I got to reintroduce two great loves back into my life this weekend: my sister Ayana and Museums ❤

I hope you get to be so lucky. Rekindle an old flame, if you haven’t already. Blow the dust off of that book you haven’t picked up in months. Pick up where you left off in that Netflix show. Get that old thang back.

Whatever makes you happy.

Until our next adventure….


PS. Here are a few flicks from our adventure at the Museum of Natural History. Enjoy ❤

Friday Jan 22, 2021


Genre: Soul

Song: Speak Now

Recommended By: Kaillaby

The powerful pipes of Leslie Odom, Jr pack a powerful punch whether he’s singing for Broadway (who can forget his portrayal of Aaron Bur on Hamilton?), a motion picture or otherwise. The song goes for a simplistic approach to production, starting off with nothing but the sweet serenading sounds of an acoustic guitar backing Leslie’s vocals.

It is the perfect representative of the movie One Night in Miami, speaking to the raging hearts and emotions of the silenced and oppressed and urges them to take a moment to “listen, listen, listen”.

It implores you to speak out, speak up and “speak now” to make a better tomorrow for the generations that will supersede us, because if want to make the World a better place, you have to start now.

If you’re in need of a spiritual uplift, give this one a listen. And please, do yourself a favor and watch Regina King’s One Night in Miami streaming now on Amazon. Be sure to keep a box of tissue handy.

Until our next adventure…


Tuesday Jan 19, 2021

As of 22 hours ago, I officially became a published Writer. I remember writing “write for CBR.com” on my vision board and, not even a year later, I was welcomed onboard as an Anime Features Writer ^_^

This started out as a dream so, to finally have it come to fruition is surreal, exhilarating, thrilling and miraculous. Miraculous in more ways than one.

Any fans of the Miraculous Lady Bug series? Well, then you’re in for a real treat. Click the link below for more details about the Miraculous Lady Bug’s manga spin-off, dropping in March 2021, written by yours truly.


Until our next adventure…


Sunday Jan 17, 2021

Coming soon…

Photocred: 4inthemorning

Shoes: Dr. Marten

Saturday Jan 16, 2021

Bro, remember concerts!?

I miss live music.

The feeling of singing at the top of your lungs, to the best of your vocal cord’s abilities, in unison, with, at times, THOUSANDS of fellow fans. It’s electrifying.

I decided that I would start giving my love for music more shine on here. To me, there’s nothing more personal than sharing music with someone. Your taste in music gives insight to who you are when you’re 100% yourself, a side of you many people don’t get to see.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed by now but, I’m pretty random (lol) so my music taste is mixey. I listen to everything from Sza to Daft Punk to Jimi Hendrix.

So, without further ado, here’s the very first #letmeputyouon



Genre: Hip/hop

Song:Best Me (Remix)

Artist:Sylvan LaCue [feat. Saba]

Recommended By: Kevin Smith

This one comes from one of my favorite people on Earth, my cousin Kevin. A HUGE aspect of my relationship with my cousin is our taste in music. Few people can match my frequency in terms of range but, Kevin manages to surprise even the likes of me! He’s good for putting me on to artists I’ve never had the pleasure of knowing. My favorite? Kota The Friend.

Make sure you follow this music guru on IG.

This song goes hard. If you’re into lyricism , flow and a vibe that’s chill and low key, give this one a listen.

Not your cup of tea? Stick around and maybe I’ll upload something that’s more your speed.

What about you? What’s blaring in your headphones? Put me onto your favorite songs and artists and I’ll give you a shout out! Head to the comments, include a fun fact about yourself and don’t forget to link your site or social media!

Until our next adventure…


Thursday Dec 31, 2020

We made it to the last day of 2020.

My, my, my what a year it’s been. If this year was good for nothing else, it has certainly been self reflection; reflecting on things that truly matter, things that bring us happiness, and the things we’ve taken for granted (like human interaction).

A recent mishap with a loved one has caused me to do some heavy reflecting. It made me realize what I’ve been missing in my life. I kept asking myself “how can I bring about major change? How can I grow and be better, kinder, more patient?” Turns out the answer was discipline. I have a hard time hearing the word “No” and denying myself and all it’s managed to do is feed my ego. I am also easily distracted, which has taken a toll on my concentration. In realizing where I’ve been going wrong, it hit me that these 2 flaws have been throwing a wrench in other operations of my life such as social, emotional and physical issues, issues I’m hoping to rid myself of in the upcoming year.

Every year, instead of a resolution, I make a declaration and dedicate the year to following through. This year was the year of change, ironically enough.

Next year? Discipline.

  • Less excuses and more action.
  • Less complaining and more problem solving.
  • Less taking things personally more being receptive to criticism.
  • Less settling down and more pushing forward.

I will push myself beyond my limits because I know I’m not a finished product and I refuse to stop my growth here. I will continue to grow as an artist, but more importantly as a person, until I’m 100% happy with myself 🙂

I invite YOU to do some reflecting today.

Really think about how you can improve in one aspect of your life and how this change can influence other areas. The hardest part is being honest with yourself but, I have faith that you can do it! (I recommend writing it down in a journal or notebook.)

If you could dedicate 2021 to something, what would it be? What sort of changes are you hoping 2021 brings about?

Let me know in the comments.

I want to thank you, whoever you are. Thank you for tuning in and hearing me. Thank you for your feedback. Thank you for motivating me with your presence alone. It means so much. I hope to see more of you in the New Year.

Unit our next adventure…



Friday Dec 25, 2020


I hope that Santa brought you everything you wished for this year!

As promised, here are the highlights from my family’s Holiday celebrations:

Christmas Eve

We had a visit from two of my favorite people in the World, my cousin Kevin and his girlfriend Elisha who flew in from Georgia for the Holidays! To make sure they got the full NYC experience, we ordered pizza for dinner. Look at these festive pizza boxes we got courtesy of our local pizza shop

This is just one of many reasons I love the Holiday season, it really brings out the joy and appreciation in people. I wish I could bottle up this feeling just to have it on tap throughout the year.

After a long night of laughs, drinks, good conversation (I live for nights like these) and the opening of one gift or 3 (she just couldn’t help herself, the wrapping paper was just too tempting) it was time to retire for the night. But not before preparing cookies and milk for Santa! Delilah even wrote him a letter.

Parenting tip: When leaving cookies for Santa, be sure to bite for realism lol

I thought adding the reply would be a nice touch. I knew it was a risk but, as a Writer, I couldn’t resist. I mean, she asked him questions for God’s sake!

I love the innocence of children.

The fact that they still believe in magic is so special to me. At one point, we confessed to her that we were Santa (due to her conveniently stumbling upon one of her gifts before Christmas) and then, mysteriously, she forgot o.O

So, my Husband and I decided to stick with it. Why not let her experience the magic a little while longer? Each year, to appease her, we make sure to tag gifts from her parents AND Santa and prepare milk and cookies. Anthony even found an app where you can send texts to Santa! He even replies with her full name for personalization!

This year was the first year we incorporated writing a letter but, I hope this tradition sticks around.

Christmas Morning

Even though we went to bed at 1 a.m., I rose at around 7:30-8:00. I mean, it’s Christmas. No one sleeps in on Christmas.

Shockingly, my Husband was next to rise. Delilah woke up to a melodic “MERRY CHRISTMAS!” and then, from there, it was time to commence with the gift opening.

First we hit the stockings.

My Husband was happy to receive his 3 pack beard oil conditioner by Viking Revolution. It was cute and compact so it made the perfect stocking stuffer.

Mmm it smells so good!

Ladies, I recommend this for any beard-wearing Baes.

Bae hooked me up with a gold choker.

Delilah found 2 Holiday cards, a Funko Pop of her fave My Hero Academia character, Toga, and of course a Roblox gift card. She jumped for joy just as any 7 year old child would upon seeing a gift card for their favorite video game.

Next, we opened the gifts under the tree.

We decided to go one for one, this way each person and each gift were given individual attention.



I managed to get the stocking stuffers and 2 other gifts in time, so he was (still) happy. I gifted him


You can find this and more anime streetwear at: https://www.valezalifestyle.com/

When it was my turn to open gifts, first up was the gift from my dear friend Amanda, who is a friend FIRST co-worker SECOND. Shoutout to co-workers turned life long friends. They’re rare, few and far between. But this one had me upon walking in with a Harry Potter tee.

Real tears.

Thanks, Missendei, you’re a real one.

My cousin and Bae, also knowing my heart, got me a few more geeky things. Deku was definitely a theme:

Before it was all said and done, Bae got me with a gag gift:


And made me cry with the most thoughtful/romantic gift I’ve EVER received

You can see in this photo, I still have tears in my eyes. Here’s a close up:

This is no ordinary picture ladies and gentleman. These are the exact coordinates of the location, AND the constellations that were in the sky, the day we got married.



Delilah was blessed with gifts, not just from her parents, but from Santa and her grandparents.

Mommy’s little scientist walked around in her lab coat all day long and even FT her Grandfather who watched her do an experiment!

You can purchase a Science Kit for your little one, here.

One gift that stood out to me were these paintable-edible-homemade sugar cookies by Chrissy Anthony’s Delightful treats. It came gift wrapped with:

  • 5 frosted individually wrapped Holiday themed cookies, each image left blank for customization.
  • An edible paint kit
  • 2 paint brushes

I thought it was the perfect gift for a child: both yummy AND creative. Buy one for your little one, here. Shoutout to Stephanie for blessing Delilah with these.

Christmas Night

After spending the day riding the high of gift giving (and sharing a few laughs watching the classic Home Alone 2) we ended our festivities with a formal dinner: roasted chicken, asparagus, broccoli, red onions and carrots.

Bae said the addition of the balsamic vinegar marinade was a nice touch.

For dessert we had apple cider donuts (yum) and Bae and I had a red wine to top it all off. Delilah enjoyed her sparkling red grape juice.

I asked the clan to dress up, because, I didn’t want us being home to take away from the importance of the Holiday. Putting on a cute outfit made the day feel all the more special, at least for me.

Oh, hey…

I gave a toast to a great day, the end of a terrible year, and all of the exciting things to come (more on that later).

Once our bellies were nice and full, it was time to snuggle up and watch DC’S WW84 on HBO Max.


All in all, I’d say the Holiday was heartwarming, fun, festive and delightful.

How did your Christmas turn out? Tell me about it in the comments.

Until our next adventure…

Monday Dec 21, 2020

Good morning lovelies!

Christmas is in less than a week.

I’m soooo excited ^_^

As expected, I’ll be doing something fun and festive with the family. Baking cookies and watching movies in our matching Reindeer pajamas are just some of the things on our itinerary. Maybe, if you’re lucky, I’ll share a recipe with you 🙂

I also plan to dress up for dinner. I’ll be sure to share pics ^_^ What are your plans for Christmas? Are you staying home? Going to visit family? Let me know in the comments.

This past weekend was dedicated to education. As an Artist, I think it’s important to be ever growing so be prepared for frequent changes and updates.

I believe there’s always room for growth in art, and I’m not ashamed to say that my early work is not my best work. But I’m fine with that! I’ll perfect my editing skills until my work is tip top. I solemnly swear to continue to learn and grow until I maximize my potential because I always want my readers to have the best experience possible.

Plus, I love the idea of growing with you!

So, for my subscribers, you may be receiving notifications about previous posts being re-posted.

This is not in error.

I will be going through all of my posts and fine tuning them so be on the look out for that. And to my non-subscribers, don’t forget to subscribe so you can get posts and updates sent straight to your inbox ^_^

Here are the posts I’ve updated so far:

Ah man, remember my first ever post “Making HERstory“? I’ve come along way since then 🙂

Let me know what you guys think.

Until our next adventure…

Thursday Dec 17, 2020

Is there anything more beautiful than Snowfall in the City?

Me and the family hit a nearby park and had ourselves some Winter fun. We threw snowballs, jumped, flipped and rolled around. It was awesome. We definitely lived our best snow day live.

Next time, I have to be sure to bring a sled ❤

Until our next adventure…

Wednesday Dec 16, 2020


Delilah, you’re Mommy’s little superhero ❤

Tuesday Dec 15, 2020

Dear Sky, pictures don’t do you justice

Saturday Dec 12, 2020

I just love this costume ❤ Get yours, here

OMG! MY SITE JUST HAD A RELAUNCH AND THE FEEDBACK HAS BEEN AMAZING! Thank you guys for your (continued) support! It means a lot to me! People have been responding so well and it feels so good to have that affirmation! To have your HARD WORK pay off! I put my foot in this, y’all. But really, I did it for you guys. You’re the reason I try so hard. I wanted to make sure your experience here was maximized to it’s highest potential. Sometimes, especially right now, you need a space to escape: Let me be your escape.

I gave each page it’s own personal touch so, in a way, the site IS me: the many facets of me ::wink:: It’s designed so that each page is stand alone, so no 2 pages are the same experience.

Some pages are more colorful,

some have music,

and some just let the words do the work. I’d say, I did a pretty darn good job.(Yes, I’m a tooter of my own horn. You gotta be your own cheerleader, ma.)

Be sure to explore! Have fun with it ^_^

Success is a many grand thing, but it’s not why I do it: YOU’RE why I do it. Yes, you! My aim is to help people. In anyway I can. So if you come here to laugh with me, cry with me, geek with me, or just marvel at my beauty (lol) just know I’m doing it for you! Sometimes, you just need a safe space to BE. My goal is to provide you with that.

So to the readers: thank you.

Love you to the Moon and back ❤

Until our next adventure…


Wednesday Dec 9, 2020

People always ask me why I’m so nice. To them, I reply: “You should see the way it makes people feel”; Nothing makes people happier than random acts of kindness. Today I spoke to a customer service rep on the phone and before we disconnected I wished her “Happy Holidays”: you would’ve thought it was the best wish she received all day. She thanked me PROFUSELY. Either she was REALLY good at doing her job, or this was her 1000th call and I was the first one to throw some Holiday cheer her way. My money’s on the former. I love being nice. I wouldn’t trade it for the World. I get satisfaction in knowing that I’m making someone’s day. And guess what? It costs me nothing. Literally nothing. Being kind is free-ninety-nine. AND there’s benefits to it! See how much further you get in your negotiations with people the next time you choose to lead with love rather than fear or anger. Fear and anger may work for a time, but it will always. breed. resentment. Genuine acts of kindness go a long way. It’s touching. Rare. Moving. And (much) Appreciated.

Random: I’m constantly being asked if I’m from the South just because people can’t fathom the idea that someone from New York truly has someone else’s interest at heart. I know. I’m a real unicorn. I’m in an island all by myself, practically. It’s just me, Steve Carell and Post Malone (have you ever seen that guy in interviews?! he’s like, GENUINELY a nice guy).

It’s not hard, really, being nice. The formula is very simple: when interacting with others, I put them first. Its very rare that this causes me an inconvenience. I allow people to speak and then I listen to them. I take the time to have genuine interest. What’s the harm in taking 10 minutes of my day to hear someone else’s story? I spend all day inside my own head. I don’t mind the break. Now, keep in mind I said genuine. Emphasis on the genuineness. This is not a situa-sh in which you can fake your way to victory. People will see right through that shit then it’s back to the drawing board. No one likes a fake. Be gone. In all seriousness: take the time to be kind. The World is filled with so many broken people. Just a bunch of lost souls bumping into each other trying to find ways to fill their voids. You never know the impact you can have on someone’s life at any given time. Whether you take the time to hold the door open for a woman who has her hands full or you wish a customer service rep a “Happy Holiday”, it pays to be nice. I hope you’re having a wonderful day.

Until our next adventure…

-Happy Holidays ❤

Friday Nov 27, 2020

Just your typical Friday night in NYC…

Thursday Nov 26, 2020

Happy Thanksgiving everybody!

This year, in light of COVID, we spent Thanksgiving in home which would make it officially the 2nd time we’ve hosted Thanksgiving. When we do Thanksgiving as a family, we always do a non-traditional (pfft. we make our OWN traditions) fusion themed dinner pulling sources from our favorite foods from around the World, which include: Spanish (Caribbean & Mexican), Asian (Japanese and Chinese), Southern and Italian. This years theme? Spanish and Asian.

I went all out you guys.

Just take a look at some of these recipes I recreated for Thanksgiving feast<3

I was so proud of myself! I paced myself, took my time, put on some music and went in the kitchen with a strategy because I REFUSED to spend the day stressed out and anxious. Delilah gave me the space that I needed and voila! A Thanksgiving feast.

We started off with a toast:

Had a quick Zoom sesh with family. And spent the rest of our night enjoying each other’s company. It was a night to remember. I hope your Thanksgiving brought you joy, love and at the very least lots of good food.

Until our next adventure…

Wednesday Nov 18, 2020

What a STRANGE structure. I’m sure someone was sacrificed here

Wednesday Nov 17, 2020

The only picture I took today.

Today is my birthday. I wasn’t even planning to come out of hiding today. You see, this year has been (mentally) tough and I’ve been feeling really down lately. Plus, I wasn’t in the mood to turn on my phone just to be disappointed that people forgot…again. All these things considered, I wasn’t feeling very celebratory which is categorically unlike me. I’m usually spirited, ecstatic, and exuberant; I’m life’s cheerleader: there isn’t a birthday that’s passed that hasn’t been celebrated.


I just wasn’t feeling it this year.

But Bae convinced me ^_^ . He convinced me that I was loved, cared for and appreciated. He convinced me that I mattered ❤ And, man I swear, it’s as if he spoke it into existence because…this birthday was HEAVY on the love. I must’ve received a text from everyone. People I hadn’t spoken to in years. It felt nice! To feel loved, ya know? And BAE!? What?! Your boy made sure I wanted for NOTHING. He took care of house and home, all of the meals and even ordered me these gourmet cupcakes:

All in all, it was a great birthday!

Oh, and shoutout to Anime Con for hosting such an awesome Cyber event today! It, LITERALLY, made my entire day. I know what it really was: you knew I didn’t have anything to do today so you were like: “hmm, how can we cheer up Kai” and someone went: “I KNOW! LETS HAVE ANIME CON ONLINE TODAY SO SHE CAN WATCH IT AND GEEK OUT WITH HER FAMILY AND CHEER UP FROM THE COMFORTS OF HER OWN HOME!” Pfft. You’re the best, Anime Con NYC!

Blog: A Girl Is Kaillaby

Going Vegetarian

Artwork by Cienna Smith Take a trip with me as I recount my experience as a Black Woman transitioning to a vegetarian lifestyle In the Summer of 2020 I decided to try an experiment. After being inspired by the testimonies of some dear friends of mine, who went against the grain and decided to convert […]

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The Checkers Game

How one match of checkers turned into a very valuable life lesson One rainy Sunday morning, I stopped by my Uncle’s house for some coffee, breakfast and a game of checkers with my Grandmother. Being the reigning checkers champ in my own home, I had no doubts whatsoever that I would walk away with the […]

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Just Egg Plant Based Patty

Just Egg Plant Based Folded Patties are available now at Whole Foods Market Effective January 1, 2021, I decided to become vegetarian. After my experiment with vegetarianism in the Summer 2020, I didn’t look at meat the same and, considering all of the DELICIOUS protein alternatives I was able to find, I figured January would […]

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Music in the background from Fesliyan Studios

4 thoughts on “H.O.E

  1. Lisa

    I love your writing voice which is basically like your “out loud” voice? Hmm.. I don’t know the proper word for that, regardless! I love this blog and how it’s such a fun way to get to know you on a more personal level, Also seeing you grow as a writer and as a person. Thank you for that dose of positivity you put out into the world, we need more gems like you! Looking forward to more content~


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