5 Invaluable Ways To Support Your Loved One’s Dreams FOR FREE!

Ah, support. Where would we be without it? Likely somewhere sad, overworked, and unsure of ourselves.

A network of support helps you stay motivated; there’s security in knowing that someone has your back, which can help you plow through those goals on your vision board without worry or doubt.
Finding success without support is damn. near. impossible, especially if you’re an entrepreneur who relies heavily on support. However, even with this being common knowledge, the word on the streets is that people don’t receive enough support from those around them, which makes the goal-achieving process lonely and overwhelming. Lack of support causes people to lose focus and get deterred by their own self-doubt.

I know that financial support isn’t always in the cards, so I came up with 5 ways to support a loved one that doesn’t cost a DIME and will still make them feel loved, appreciated, and cared for.

1. Social Media

Today, social media is the bread and butter of branding. It’s the best free way to market, brand, and expand your network. If you want to help your loved ones strive, big them up on social media. It’s not enough to follow them; you have to be interactive. If they post something, don’t just leave them hanging: drop in and show some love! Leave comments on their FB pages, reply to their stories, retweet their flyers, and if they make a post about something they have going on: spam that shit!

Being interactive on social media is a simple way to support that often gets overlooked. Something as effortless as sharing a post is a great way to help with things like exposure while helping your friend (or relative) feel seen. If your loved one is an entrepreneur, having their content seen by the right person could change their lives and impact the future success of their business.

2. Feedback

No, not praise. Not constant validation. Feedback. The difference is one is authentic, and the other is just ass-kissing. If your friend is on the path to pursuing their dreams, they will need someone who’s not afraid to give their unbiased opinions. Although hearing that everything they do is “fire” will stroke their ego, it isn’t conducive to their growth.

If they’re a musician and ask you to listen to a new song, that’s your chance to give your honest opinion. Telling them where they’re going wrong opens their eyes to new perspectives and will allow them to correct anything they may be doing wrong before it goes public. We wouldn’t want our loved ones to suffer the wrath of *internet trolls or negative reviews.

*Sounds terrifying right!? See? That’s why we should be honest 🙂

3. Check-In

One REALLY simple way to support a loved one is to ask them how they’re doing. Checking in with someone’s progress is a great way to show them that you’re taking them seriously. This one simple gesture will mean so much. With everyone being so caught up in their own lives, it’s possible that no one is checking in with them to see how they’re doing. By being the one to provide them with the space to talk about their endeavors, you’re helping them stay motivated.

For example, many dream chasers say they aren’t taken seriously at first; either what they’re working on is ignored, or it’s treated as a hobby. Imagine how much further someone could get if they felt like someone had faith in what they were doing? That spark of hope could mean so much. Additionally, checking in with your loved ones is a great way to help them stay responsible: experts say that because you don’t want to look bad in front of other people, talking about it keeps you committed.

4. Promote

Think about the moment your favorite brand or artist drops exciting news: isn’t your first instinct to share it with your friends? Don’t underestimate the power of putting people on! If your friend is pursuing a dream, sharing things like news, event dates, and new releases is a great way to help your loved ones expand their reach. Good news travels fast, and if it excites the right person, there’s no limit to the depths it could go.

Every best-selling business you know reaches a mass audience swiftly and organically, mainly because of loyal fans who urgently share their news with other people. Just taking the time to help spread awareness gives them a fighting chance against bigger competition who have the advantage of a bigger platform and a larger fan base.

5. Offer Help

Maybe you’re not able to offer them help financially, but it’s possible you can help them out in a smaller, simpler way that could also be helpful to their goals. Offering to help your loved ones can relieve them of duties that they may be too busy to handle and could help them achieve goals or reach deadlines faster.

If they’re a fashion designer who’s run out of space for merch at home, you could offer to hold some of their stock. If they’re a vendor who’s planning to sell at a local con, you can volunteer to help them at their booth. Alleviating your loved ones from minor tasks and duties is a thoughtful, selfless way to help them achieve dreams that are free to you and invaluable to them.

There’s comfort in knowing that someone has your back. Knowing that you have people in your corner who have faith in you and what you’re doing can do WONDERS for productivity and self-esteem 🙂 If you know someone who’s pursuing a dream, try lending your support in one of these 5 invaluable ways. Trust me, it makes a world of difference.

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Being A Good Person: Why Being Nice Isn’t Always Necessary

I’ve always considered myself a nice person. I learned at an early age that your image is everything, so I would go out of my way to make sure I was viewed that way. When I was younger, I would prioritize other people’s feelings and convenience in place of my own. I always remembered to say “please” and “thank you,” and I would pour my love on thick in my interactions with people whether I was feeling it or not. I guess I thought to be good, you had to be nice, and I wanted nothing more than to be seen as a good person. The problem here was being nice all the time set me up for impossible standards. There was always the presumption that I would be nice no matter what. Also, a lot of my politeness was wasted on the undeserving. I was nice to people even when they wronged me, choosing to be passive about my issues or not confront them. I was starting to see how it led to people not taking me seriously, something I’ve worked hard to reverse in the last couple of years. For a long time, I had a hard time distinguishing between being a good person and being a kind one. Now, I have the confidence to say that I’m good without having to be nice, and man, can I tell you? There’s such a peace in that.

Being Nice: Why It Isn’t Always Necessary

Being a nice person means being pleasant, polite, or friendly. It’s also used as a sign of approval and attractiveness. But, being nice can also look like:

  1. Making sure you do and say all the right things.
  2. Going out of your way to put others before yourself.

I’m here for joy and kindness, but the problem for some is distinguishing the “when,” “where,” and “who.” I personally believe that being nice isn’t always necessary and for the sake of your happiness it’s important to learn the difference.

For example, when you’re being wronged or harmed, it’s not your job to be nice: it’s your job to use your voice. When you’re being open and honest about your feelings, it doesn’t have to look kind or sound polite; a lesson I find myself having to reiterate to my 8-year-old daughter a lot as she gets older. Like me, my daughter is an empath and often puts other people’s feelings before herself. I can tell she does it because she feels obligated to bring kindness into the world, which, I must admit, is pretty admirable and inspiring. However, I’ve already seen examples where other children have tried to take advantage of this kindness because it’s often mistaken for weakness. This very moment is where it usually gets in the way.

Niceness can distract us from the big picture, clouding our judgment when we see signs of blatant disrespect. In some cases, the signs are seen, but they’re just ignored because nice people may feel obligated to keep the peace. However, if someone is mistreating you, it’s not up to you to be polite–the priority should be to protect your peace. It is not your job to take on people’s malice, and the best way to get this to stop is to be assertive, a talent that will force your “nice” ness aside. The problem is when nice people find their hands tied by trying to uphold their impossible standard of “good,” all the while not realizing they don’t have to be. It’s ok! As a recovering “nice” guy, I’ve got your back!

How To Be Good Without Being Nice

If you’re still having trouble figuring out how to be good without being nice, I got you! Here are a few key ways to tell that you’re doing the right thing and not the polite thing:

  1. You Communicate Directly The keyword here is direct. Being direct does not have to be rude, brash, or abrasive. It also doesn’t require you to yell or be disrespectful, just honest. Communicating directly takes a lot of courage which is why people will often resort to being nice; they’re scared of the consequences of their honesty. However, being direct is the best way to get your point across clearly where there’s no mistaking your intentions. To be clear, you don’t have to be nice, and that clarity will earn you a lot more respect.
  2. You Stick Up For Yourself Good people often find themselves in predicaments where they have to be the hero and stand up for themselves, especially when no one else will. In a moment where someone is causing you harm or discomfort, later for being nice. What you should prioritize is security. Good people won’t allow themselves to be harmed. Why? Because they know it’s wrong, and defending what’s right doesn’t always look kind. But it’s ok, though: the good news is it doesn’t have to be nice if it’s necessary.
  3. You Stand Up For Your Values Good people usually stick to their core values no matter where they are and who they’re around. On the flip side, someone who’s nice may want to go along with the popular opinion just so they don’t stir up trouble. However, standing your ground and not going against your moral code is necessary to your individuality, and individuals will always earn more respect than “yes men.” Good people are comfortable using their unique voice instead of being someone who always goes with the flow just to save face.

Whether you identify as good or nice, just know that having one doesn’t require the other. To be clear: there’s never a bad time to be good, but you should save that kindness for people who match your energy. When you catch yourself being nice, ask yourself at that moment if it’s really needed or if you’re just using it as a safety net.

And if you find yourself falling back on being kind, allow this post to be your guide ❤

Here’s to happiness!

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