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Trusting YOUR Process

Thanks for believing in me < 3

Why it’s 100% necessary to be patient with yourself and stop monitoring the success of other people. Oh, the places you’ll go…

In the internet age, it’s hard not to compare yourself to everyone else– you see the glorified pics, the constant portrayal of success. How can one witness these things and not start self-reflecting about where they have (or haven’t) accomplished.

It’s happened to me.

Once upon a time, I took a hiatus from social media because it wasn’t breeding inspiration. It started to become a reflection of all the things I wasn’t doing and it showed me all the goals I wanted to achieve but couldn’t.

I started to get jealous and envious. I began to not have love and appreciation for the things I had going on because I was too busy trying to live someone else’s life.

That’s where I went wrong.

Instead of monitoring and focusing on my own success, I was distracted by the paths of other people. I found myself checking the pages of people with more established followings and endorsement deals thinking to myself how could I be like them? What are they doing that I’m not doing?

Who can relate?

Ladies: how many times have you seen a picture or a video of a trending woman and started to think about all of the improvements you needed to make?

How your body could be: thinner, thicker, toner. Your hair could be longer, fuller, healthier.

You get swallowed by the popularity contest and lose yourself in light of being liked; not knowing all the while what their real-life experience is like. You’re just caught up in the glorified image that’s portrayed online.

Don’t lose Yourself in light of being liked #trustyourprocess

Being someone new on the scene, I was definitely tempted by the bells and whistles that would take me to faster stardom: I considered playing up my sexiness, being a brand ambassador for an online fashion boutique, and thought about switching to lanes that had nothing to do with my art just to get attention.

It was my best friend that told me to keep my eye on the prize. She recommended that I stick to what makes me an individual versus trying to hop on the bandwagon. It reminded me of that scene in A Star Is Born where Bradley Cooper is giving Lady Gaga advice on her stardom, he says:

“If you don’t dig deep into your fuckin’ soul you won’t have legs. I’m just telling you that. If you don’t tell the truth out there you’re fucked. All you got is you and what you have to say to people and they are listening right now and they are not going to be listening forever. Trust me. So you gotta grab it and you don’t apologise or worry about why they’re listening or how long they’re gonna be listening for. You just tell them what you want to say.“

Bradley Cooper, A Star Is Born
So dreamy

I realize now that people aren’t following me on social media and coming to my website because I’m like someone else: you’re here for me.

There was something about me that interested you and it’s that exchange that’s so important!

I don’t want to waste any time or energy on trends. After a while, I’d exhaust all of my efforts just trying to keep up. It would mean so much more to be noticed for being me ^_^

The focus should be on figuring out what I could do better not how I can be like other people.

Remember that!

One can easily get caught up in the scene but remember that even the trendsetters were once where you are now: in a space trying to figure out their path to success.

They figured out a way that works best for them, now it’s up to you to pave the way for yourself. Comparing your process to that of others is just counterproductive.

Find your “it” factor and construct a plan on how to make it work for you!

  • Try a vision board.
  • Check-in with yourself, often.

Don’t forget to add the energy!

E*N*E*R*G*Y

The key to success is and has always been ENERGY. Read on to find out what energy is and how you can use it to improve all aspects of your life

I’ve read my fair share of self-help books, “The Secret“, “The Power of Now“, and “You Are A Bad-Ass At Making Money” to name a few.

They all have the same bottom line: if you want to succeed at something, you must feed it energy.

“If you want to succeed at something, you must feed it #energy”

What is Energy?

What IS energy? 

Simply, it is the effort you dedicate to an idea in order to bring it to fruition.

By literal definition, it is “the strength and vitality required for sustained physical or mental activity“. The two keywords in this definition are “required” and “sustained“.

This means energy isn’t optional, It’s a prerequisite.

Energy is the difference between completing a task right away and putting it off until tomorrow, between a business taking off and it never leaving the drawing board, between a dream and a goal. (My definition of a goal is, a dream + energy + money.) 

Seems like a really simple algorithm, doesn’t it? It’s harder than it seems.

That’s because a key component of producing energy is self-motivation and being self-motivated is something you have to constantly work on.

It’s very easy to falter or be distracted when you’re the only one doing the pushing but, I’m here to tell you, it’s worth the effort.

Where you may be going wrong

Lack of energy is the reason why you’re still at your 9 – 5, stuck in the dreaming phase instead of doing your dream job: we’re still giving entirely too much energy to things that don’t matter to us.

When you choose to give your energy to your day job instead of your dreams, your dreams are being starved. 

Think of your dreams like a plant and the energy its life source; give it the energy it needs and it will flourish. Deny it? It will dwindle and shrivel up until there’s nothing left. 

I’m not saying to up and quit your job as you read, what I’m saying is, you want that dream life? That dream house? To reach a certain amount in savings or to travel? 

No matter the goal, give the idea energy and see how much of a difference it makes. 

  • Talk about it. Every chance that you get and in as many ways as possible.
  • Think about it. Have it in the forefront of your mind. What does it look like? Feel like? What would you do if you had it? 
  • Write about it. Make it real by putting it into words. Try journaling, a diary, a To-Do List or a Not-to-do-list. 

#talkaboutit #thinkaboutit #writeaboutit

 *Here’s one I found online: Click to access Not-To-Do-List-Printable.pdf Instead of looking at the things I NEED to do, I did as assessment for what I DON’T NEED which made space for the things that matter. Like my dream of being a Writer!

The Bottom Line

What ever it is that’s occupying your energy and preventing you from achieving that special goal, let. it. go. (I call this releasing. ) 

So, what are you willing to release?

Start by asking yourself what you can do without so that you may apply more energy to your dreams and make them a reality.

How much or how little is entirely up to the individual but, I decided that there’s nothing that I wasn’t willing to sacrifice to achieve my goals and here I am writing for you ^_^ 

 How many of you can say the same?

Here’s a look at my Not To Do List! As you can see from the eraser marks, it’s been updated a few times. Thats a sign of growth! ^_^

I’d love to hear from you:

What aspects of your life do you think could improve by giving or taking away energy?

Let me know in the comments.